✍️ April 17th, Thursday —
Today’s Zoom class was for newcomers. Two students wished to seek the Guru’s permission to start meditating. However, since neither had family support, the Guru gently declined their request and explained his reasons with a beautiful example.
If we plant a banana tree, we must give it proper support when it grows big and starts to tilt under the weight of its own fruit. Similarly, a husband and wife should be each other’s pillars of support. I say this not out of anger but from a sense of responsibility—I cannot bear the consequences of another’s karma. Only those with their family’s support are allowed to practice meditation here. You may seem earnest now, but what if, over time, your true nature emerges? Just as we check all four tires before a long journey, we must have the whole family’s support as we embark on an even greater journey—the path to Brahmaloka. Only then can we truly reach life’s ultimate goal.
✍️ In the past, I meditated for many hours at a stretch— 6 to 7 hours a day. But for the sake of the world’s betterment, I set aside those precious hours. Yet none of my disciples seem willing to put in the effort or make sacrifices—even for their own families’ well-being.
✍️ Ancient times the children were sent to the Gurukulam under the guidance of the Guru and Gurumatha. They return only after completion of their education. When children are sent to Gurukulam, they must leave their parents, home, and all their comforts. In this way, children are trained to sacrifice at an early age. Sacrifice is the most important and basic quality that everyone must acquire for a healthy, peaceful life. In the Gurukulam, a self-enlightened Guru teaches them how to live based on truth and dharma by discerning the Dharma and Adharma. Thus, a generation is formed that is capable of doing good to the world.
Today, however, we’ve strayed far from that path. Parents take children—even those as young as LKG students—on trips to bustling cities, exposing young minds to nightlife filled with pubs, singing, dancing, and activities that lack moral grounding. How can we expect them to protect their brahmacharya? Even infants are vulnerable to abuse—not even safe in their own fathers’ hands. The world has fallen so low that some fathers impregnate their own daughters, unaware of the gravity of their sin.
Children are as pure as white paper. They become what we write on them. We should give them opportunities to see, hear, and learn only good things. We should teach them only truth and righteousness. Then, when they come across falsehood and immorality, they will recognize it on their own. There is no need to teach them about immorality separately.
✍️ In marriage, a father entrusts his beloved daughter—raised selflessly with utmost love and care—to the groom. It is the parents’ duty to ensure that the groom is truly worthy. This sacred act is called Kanyadanam. Marriage is sacred and must be treated with reverence. It should be conducted with the blessings of all and not celebrated with non-vegetarian food (often referred to as “corpse curry”), alcohol, dancing, and the like. When such a sacred ceremony is marked by the killing of innocent beings, their curse brings serious consequences. This has been clearly stated by our great
Right after the wedding, everything starts sweet and smiles. But within six months to a year, the relationship’s true nature reveals itself. If a wife finds faults in her husband, remember— it reflects her own mistakes. No man is perfect, but if a wife is a “dharma pathni” (wife lives by dharma), she can shape even the most difficult husband into a better version of himself. Family harmony ultimately rests in the woman’s hands.
In marriage, the bride’s family often focuses on wealth, job, and his looks. The groom’s side tends to focus on dowry, finances, and the woman’s beauty. But no one wants a good wife (“Dharma Patni”), a good “man” as a husband, or a peaceful family life. Reflecting on this, the Guru asked, “Now tell me—why do conflicts arise after marriage?”
One disciple, Pramod, said, “Guruji, we didn’t match horoscopes before marriage. We fell in love and married with family blessings, without consulting astrologers. Yet we live in harmony, like Ardhanareeshwara. Later, out of curiosity, we checked our charts—they were a perfect match.” The Guru replied, “That is a blessing. Matching horoscopes is good, but mind compatibility is even more important. For that both husband and wife live by universal law”
Struggling to find a life partner or entering a disharmonious marriage is ultimately the result of past karma.
✍️ Both in the Puranas and in the present, people continue to engage in actions that are clearly forbidden. Through the Mahabharata, Vyasa Maharshi teaches us what should not be done and the consequences of following adharma. If the great Bhishmacharya had stood on the side of dharma, the Mahabharata story might not have happened. He made the unrighteous choice of supporting his father’s selfish desire, and his entire life was pulled toward adharma. Even though he was a self enlightened person, he suffered deep mental anguish throughout his life.
The Mahabharata shows us, through Bhishmacharya, how the life of a person who chooses adharma unfolds. In contrast, the Ramayana shows us, through Sri Rama, how one should live a life rooted in dharma.
Today, adharma takes new forms—like “bachelor parties,” where purity and sacredness are cast aside. The challenges we face aren’t punishments— they’re the natural consequences of past karma, designed to guide us back to truth.
These hardships are opportunities to clear karmic debts and move closer to moksha. The more we suffer, the more we begin to question, and the deeper the urge to seek. And in that seeking, we are often led-through the grace of a Guru-toward the universe and its truth.
Each of us is born into this life as a result of our past actions. There’s no escaping the duties of this birth; if remain unfinished, the cycle continues. Yet it is never too late to change. The moment we choose the path of dharma, our lives begin to transform in ways beyond imagination. Keep your family close and live according to Dharma. If love increases, hostility will decrease. If hatred increases, they will distance themselves from each other.
✍️Guruji grew up in a household of early risers. Even after long nights of work in Bombay—returning home only at dawn—he found it nearly impossible to sleep past six. The habit of waking early was deeply ingrained from childhood. This is the power of early discipline. Children should be taught to rise before Brahma Muhurtha (the pre-dawn hours) and encouraged to bathe in cold water—if there’s a pond nearby, even better.
A woman has a powerful role in guiding men onto the right path—whether she is a mother, wife, sister, or daughter. When women uphold dharma, society flourishes. When they falter, society suffers. In short, the women closest to a man play a vital role in shaping his life.
Men who are overly attached to their mothers often remain emotionally dependent on them. They deeply feel their mother’s pain. Often, the mother does things the son should do for himself. This love can make him even more dependent. However, after marriage, this often leads to conflict with the wife. Mothers should instead raise their sons to be independent.
✍️ Life is filled with ups and downs. For every rise, there is a fall—and ego only hastens that fall. So we must learn to do good and live with humility. After explaining this, the Guru asked, “Do our schools teach us such values anymore?” We spend nearly 21 years navigating the education system, yet we still don’t know how to truly live. The current system is failing us all.
✍️ In response to Guruji’s question, a teacher well-versed in Sanskrit shared some insights into how the mind works.
If there is a blackspot on a white paper, everyone sees this black dot only and not the vast white space surrounding it. ie, They don’t see anything good, if there is something bad, everyone wants to see it. Our mindset becomes our lifestyle. Every action, there is a reaction, said Dr. Chandran sir.
Guruji concluded the class by saying, “Support your husband, and walk with him on your spiritual journey.”
